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There is no yes or no answer to this question that can be applied to every child in every situation. It is best to involve children in making that decision. Explain what to expect at the funeral and allow children to decide if they want to attend. It needs to be their choice.
Other Considerations About Children Attending Funerals
The most important thing is to be available to your children so they feel loved and supported at all times. Truly listen and answer their questions as honestly and directly as you can. Observe their behavior and be as patient and as understanding as possible. Asking exploring questions can help them to talk about their feelings and open up when ready. Your steady presence is the best thing you can offer your children throughout their grief journey. For more on this topic click here Ways to Help Your Grieving Child
The purpose of viewing the body of the deceased is to help survivors accept the reality and finality of the death, allow loved ones an opportunity to say "good-bye", and help the grieving process begin in a healthy way. When it comes to children we recommend that the following parameters be met in order for the viewing process to be a positive one:
Yes, it is healthy to let your child see you grieve. There may be times when you will need to grieve alone and cry, or scream out loud, and that is important. However, it is just as important to grieve as a family. Children learn how to grieve from the adults in their lives. Let your children see you cry so they know that it is OK to be sad. It is OK to cry. It will give them reassurance that it is normal for them to feel the same way. In addition, if you talk to your children about your feelings you will create a strong bonding experience. Being open with them allows them to be open with you.
Additional Ways Your Openness Benefits Your Children (Wolfelt, 1991, p. 27)
COMMMON REACTIONS FOR GRIEVING TEENS (Dougy Center, 1999b, pp.18-25)